Being a Mom is Not Your Only Option

(A white and privileged viewpoint)

I just wanted to be a voice to those today who haven’t considered options for their future other than parenthood. You may think “Well, that’s just what you do. You graduate from school, maybe go to college, get a fulltime job, get married and have kids, more or less in that order.” That doesn’t have to be the only way we go through life.

There are more than enough people on the planet at this point, and procreation just does not need to be a priority. In fact, some people have said that having one or fewer children is the only way to prevent catastrophic climate change (ie. air that is too toxic to breathe, heat that we can’t survive through, no plants in existence, no more humanity). This means one biological child at most, and adopt or foster the rest if you want more.

But beyond even that, there are many other pursuits in this life that are worthy ways of spending one’s limited time. Consider the life of Oprah Winfrey: she overcame so much and spends her life giving back to others and spreading wisdom and goodness in the world. She does not have living children. Diane Sawyer, Katharine Hepburn, Gloria Steinem, Stevie Nicks, Dolly Parton, and many more also achieved so much, perhaps due to not having children. With more time and more money, and the potential for a lot more good sleep, and focus to develop your dreams and skills, what could you achieve in this world? Look to history, to inventors, innovators, writers, explorers, anyone who inspires you!

And really ask yourself, ‘what is it that I’m good at in this life?’ Are you good at activism for human rights or the environment? Making uplifting music? Helping people with their problems? Doing research and figuring out new ways to heal people? There are a million different things you can do, and bring your own experiences and thoughts and motivations to. I want to invite you to comment: what life pursuits interest you OTHER THAN parenthood?

There will be future posts about parenting, for sure, mothers in particular, and all the sacredness wrapped up in that. But for now, think about this: what are you really good at, or interested in? What do you want to do with the limited time you have? What do you want to change about the world, while you’re here?

I’m feeling good about expanding our horizons.