I started shopping for my good friend’s four-year-old’s birthday gift. Not because gift-giving is obligatory societally, but because I’ve known this little kid since she was 4 weeks old and she’s very special to me.
I was blessed as a child with generous relatives and family friends who gave a wide array of the most amazing inspiring beautiful gifts!! So to continue the legacy, here is my first attempt to move past my first thought (Oooooh, sparkly pink tutu!!!!!) and share with you some gifts with greater perceived depth. I say ‘perceived’ because as an artist and costumer, I very much so value beautiful fabric and visual aesthetics and see them as facilitating perception of the beauty of the world.
The age range for the below list is wider than just the 4-year-old crowd, and the price range is on the low side. A lot of these are from ‘amightygirl.com’, which you should definitely check out.
And I think that will about exhaust most folks’ willingness to click links, so I’ll save some others for a future post. Keep on raising amazing, intelligent, sparkly-eyed, alive, compassionate girls. We all start little, and then get inspired.
This article makes some good points. I disagree personally about the bit that ‘president’, seeming such a male office, is intimidating to women because they think they won’t have much of a chance to win. However, that may be true for some. For me personally, I wouldn’t want to be president because I think it’s immensely stressful and also awful for any one person to be so much in the spotlight. I want a more peaceful lifestyle for myself. I know that there are men who feel that way, too.
I think the article makes an excellent point that I was already planning to write about; that maybe there just aren’t that many women seeking public office. To get more women in positions of authority, maybe we need more candidates. I personally have no clue what could accomplish that goal, what could encourage women toward that end. Do you? Are you a woman interested in politics? Make a comment.
I have a few clues about what isn’t helping, though. There are enough women focusing on makeup and beauty alone that multiple youtube ‘vloggers’ make a living in the multi-millions from posting their makeup and hair tutorials.
I wish them no ill whatsoever. I personally find their makeup tutorials helpful when I choose to wear makeup. What I’m saying is that a lot of women are spending a LOT of time and money and FOCUS on their image. Not their minds, ambitions, or working for change in the world. Are you personally willing to shift those priorities for yourself? Do you know how much time out of any given day you spend on image? And more importantly, how much you spend developing your mind or working for positive change in the world?
I think the condition of focusing on image has a lot to do with how people are brought up, pressures faced at school and in the workplace, and media consumption. These ways of living are ingrained. But the solutions are at our fingertips and EVERY positive change makes a positive impact. Do what you can, today, right now. And then when it’s ‘right now’ again, do what you can then, too.
Share your positive actions here! As a community we need to support one another.
This post is inspired by something I saw on Etsy just now, as well as recent events.
When your gut instinct tells you something, I think the initial reaction for many tends to be to apply logic, to deny that intuition could be right on the mark, and to ignore the message. What I’ve been learning for the past couple years (at least) is that my intuition rarely fails; though occasionally I fail to heed it.
In the book ‘Women Who Run With the Wolves’ there is a story called Vasalisa the Wise, in which a girl is given a doll by her dying mother. Her mother tells her to feed the doll regularly and she will be protected. When she doesn’t feed the doll, she gets into dangerous situations, but when she does feed it, the doll begins to speak to her. The author, Dr. Estes, compares this to intuition; when we ‘feed’ our intuition by heeding it, the voice of our intuitive knowing grows more powerful and we are able to hear it more clearly.
I have been heeding my own intuition more and more over the years, and whereas 4 years ago I felt I was walking around confused and blind through many situations, unsure of what decisions to make, now I feel that I have a much brighter and clearer view of the safest and best path.
I’d encourage you today to get quiet, close your eyes, focus on your heart while breathing deeply and
see if there is a nagging thought or feeling there.
Begin to write whatever comes to mind on a piece of paper until you have nothing left to write.
When you’ve done this, look at the paper and see what decisions you might be mulling over.
Accept that you are or aren’t sure right now, of what to do.
If you know what to do, (which for me, I get a sense of peace about that path if it’s the right one) you might write down some first steps to take: don’t just think them! Actually write them. Somehow this always makes clearer in my mind how easy they are, though they seem hard before they turn from thoughts to printed words.
If you still don’t know, let that be ok. The answers will come at the right time. Come back to your heart again later.
It may take several tries of getting centered over several days or weeks before you are able to write anything. Keep attempting. The simple act of centering in your heart is food for your intuition anyway.
I wish you the best in this. Remember to trust your story. If you feel like something’s ‘off’ or out of place, it most likely is; so take the steps you need to take and trust yourself.
“Hope is the thing with feathers That perches in the soul And sings the tune without the words And never stops at all.”
~ Emily Dickinson
“Really important meetings are planned by the souls long before the bodies see each other.
Generally speaking, these meetings occur when we reach a limit, when we need to die and be reborn emotionally. These meetings are waiting for us, but more often than not, we avoid them happening. If we are desperate, though, if we have nothing to lose, or if we are full of enthusiasm for life, then the unknown reveals itself, and our universe changes direction.”
~ Paulo Coelho, Eleven Minutes
It takes a lot to freak me out. But last week, in the middle of Woolworths in Byron Bay I consider that I was freaked. Let me explain…
I was feeling ill, miserably exhausted on my lyme drugs, depressed and in…
‘Broadside’ talks about the distraction that is focusing on women’s weight. An important post from an excellent writer. We have more important issues to be concerned with.
Honestly, I don’t think about my weight from one day to the next. I don’t weigh myself (other than on Thanksgiving to see how much food I ate, because I have a scientific curiosity about how much it’s possible to eat). I eat healthily on a regular basis, yes with cookies and chips occasionally thrown in. I eat hummus, spinach, beef, chicken, hemp milk, blueberries, apples, oranges, eggs with cheese, oatmeal, and many other things. I want to see how these foods affect my level of energy and happiness. I take a multi-vitamin so I can be awake and alert. I avoid coffee, alcohol, cigarettes, and other toxins which can cause bodily imbalances.
I am really grateful not to be concerned with weight. I don’t watch it. I move around. I do things I love. I relieve stress. I avoid watching t.v. and I try to limit how much time I spend on the computer.
I am interested in women’s rights and promoting them. I care about art, design, feng shui, photography, animals, nature, the environment, human rights. My family is vitally important to me. I am an intelligent person with many gifts, and much to offer humanity within the course of my lifetime. I am feeling good about staying focused on what matters!
I am healthy, have beautiful skin and hair. I have enough energy to power a small city and am never sick, but I am still a size 10-12 and 170 pounds.
Why is it no one looks like me?
When we look on TV, we are confronted with extremes–super skinny or clinically obese. We are calling anorexics “beautiful” and calling dangerously obese women “curvy.” We are an a country that is dying because of euphemisms. I hear parents call morbidly obese children “husky,” “big-boned” or “muscular.” We have retailers calling anorexics “curvy.”
Excellently stated. I could not have written this better myself, and therefore I give you hecatedemeter’s rendition of the framing of the issue of women’s reproductive rights. Of course it’s good this came up in the debate, and of course it’s good to support women’s rights. Women are worthy enough to be supported simply because *we* matter. There need be no other reason to uphold our autonomy and power over our decisions.
I appreciate good framing and I understand what President Obama and Atrios are doing when they explain that giving women access to family planning information and other forms of birth control and abortion (see what I did there?) implicates economic interests and the interests of men and children (aka “families,” which, oddly, in America don’t appear to include the women and their children who are not attached to men), as well as women’s rights.
And, Obama and Atrios are right.
And, it pisses me right off.
First, of course access to, for example, free/cheap/effective, and safe birth control (including abortion; see what I did there?) has important economic ramifications for women and those who love them/have their lives entangled with them (aka, pretty much everyone).
Being able to control how (if any) many children she has and when she has them can make a gigantic economic impact upon a woman’s…