No More ‘Sad-Vertising’!

Personally, I make it a point to avoid purchasing products which use “sad-vertising”… a term I’m using to refer to ads which encourage women to feel bad about ourselves in some way.

You know what I’m talking about… commercials where we’re portrayed as being inferior in some way, until we buy the product. They play on the desire many people have, of wanting to be liked. They also promote a lie that affirmation comes from material possessions, and even worse, that self-approval relies on other people’s approval of us.

Women are not the only targets of this, of course. Men are frequently targeted as well. It needs to stop. And we need to speak up about our dislike of it.

SAY NO TO SAD-VERTISING. I’m #notbuyingit

#saynotosadvertising

We also need to ACT on our dislike of it by consistently avoiding purchasing items promoted using sadvertising.

Money changes everything. We have the power to make change,* and we have the right to use it.

 

*ten points to any pun-sters who caught that.

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I’m Not ‘Picky’, I’m Selective!

Choose your words with intention!

Let’s sing a positive tune, today, friends. I’ve had a LOT of practice turning negative statements into positive ones due to my work on this blog. This practice has definitely been worth the effort! I feel happier and more positive, and it’s become easier to see solutions instead of problems.

I can see this having all sort of practical applications! If you’re an engineer, you’re looking for something which will work, not something that will fall apart, right? It’s all about focusing on what you would like to attract into your life.

Focus on positive statements, and positive statements will come your way. And that will bring lots of positive energy your way. Try it and see!

Blessings and love for you.

Love you, THEN reproduce

Unfortunately in some situations abortion might be the most loving choice. What is absolutely 100% better, however, is just not to have sex in the first place if you don’t want to give birth. ‘Sexual freedom’ and sexual wantonness are totally different things. Women have the freedom to have sex with men outside of marriage. We also have the freedom to choose to not use that freedom.

Whether or not you agree with me doesn’t matter, but have an open mind for a minute.

I’ve known several people who told me they knew their births were accidental because of things their parents had said, who had been treated terribly by their parents, or who were adopted and had never forgiven their birth parents for having a child and being unable to take care of it. These people have suffered so greatly. I have such compassion for them. I would absolutely NEVER say that these people should have been aborted, because I don’t feel that at all. I believe these people deserve all the love in the world. I am glad to have known them. I do feel that it’s cruel to bring someone into a life that you aren’t ready to provide them, or aren’t emotionally capable of providing. A person needs to love their self before they can teach a child how to love itself.

Are you wondering if maybe you don’t love yourself that well?

do you smoke? drink for oblivion? use drugs at all? use sex to block out emotions? neglect to eat/sleep/bathe/brush your teeth? (You can’t love yourself if you’re destroying yourself.)

Or perhaps you do have a healthy love of yourself?

do you care more about being true to yourself than about what other people think of you?

do you make your needs priority ahead of your desires?

can you give up something that’s harming you?

do you seek positive healthy situations?

can you set boundaries and hold to them?

can you sit with and truly feel strong emotions until they pass?

I would like to gift you the quest for love that I have been taking… I am seeking to love myself in the kindest ways, to have self-compassion and to take great care of my well-being. I am passing it on to you.

Maybe it Could be Ok…

…to share your story.

I’m reading a book by Brené Brown, called ‘The Gifts of Imperfection’. The author’s work was recommended to me by two guiding women in my life, who have made a profound impact on the way I see the world. The one who first told me of Brené Brown gave me hope that through my active participation I can heal my body, that I can live the life I imagine and not be held back by health concerns. The one who loaned me her copy of this book has led me by example since I was a small child, showing me that it’s ok to live joyfully and authentically and accept being as imperfect as humans can’t help being. It’s ok to play it by ear, measure once and cut twice, and -not only ok but vital- to love yourself through it all. This book deals with those same topics, and is exactly what I need to hear.

If we want to live and love with our whole hearts, and if we want to engage with the world from a place of worthiness, we have to talk about the things that get in the way– especially shame, fear, and vulnerability.

~Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection

Brené mentions shame, that shame does not ‘like’ to be talked about, that when it has the chance to isolate us, it gains control over our lives. We all have shame. I know I do. We’re all afraid to talk about shame- interestingly enough, my friend mentioned this topic comes up a lot in her activist work with people whose homes have been foreclosed on. Talking about shame is the method that makes it go away.

What do you have shame about? I would like to invite you to send me an anonymous email with your story. If you would like your story shared as a post on this blog (I will do so at my discretion), please write at the top of the email or in the subject line of the email: “Share my Story on FGAF.” Send stories to feelinggoodfeminism@gmail.com

No matter what your story is about, there is no topic too big, nor too small. If someone else shares your topic, still write your story and share it. It is important. You may help someone else, and most importantly, you will help yourself.

I’m feeling good about wrapping up my shame in a cozy blanket of self-acceptance.

Tranquil Space Foundation

This sort of thing is exactly what I began this blog to promote and support:

http://www.tranquilspacefoundation.org/

The Tranquil Space Foundation “expands opportunities for girls and women to develop their inner voice through yoga, creativity, and leadership activities.”

E-mail: info@tranquilspacefoundation.org
Twitter: @tsfound
YouTube: youtube.com/tsfound
Facebook: facebook.com/tranquilspacefoundation

Let’s support and promote this organization! I want to hear how you choose to support TSF: will you ‘like’ their facebook page? add them on Twitter and retweet their twitter posts? Will you post their youtube videos to your facebook or email them to your friends? Will you tell the people in your life who know teen girls about the workshops for girls in grades 9-12?

Thank you so much!!! Your voice matters!!

Impact

You may notice I’m changing some things here at Feeling Good About Feminism. You have a part to play in these changes, by answering a few simple questions.

What can I do to make this blog easier to use?

What would you like to see happen for women’s rights and freedoms in 2013?

Please answer below, and respond to the poll! Thanks so much.

I’m feeling good about change for the best.

Feeling Good About Feminism’s 2012 in review

Thank you to all who viewed my blog, left comments, pressed the ‘like’ button, shared, and otherwise supported my blog. And a HUGE thank you to everyone who supports and promotes equality for women in all respects.

WordPress.com created a report of 2012’s blog activity for Feeling Good About Feminism:

Here’s an excerpt:

600 people reached the top of Mt. Everest in 2012. This blog got about 3,100 views in 2012. If every person who reached the top of Mt. Everest viewed this blog, it would have taken 5 years to get that many views.

Click here to see the complete report.

To follow on Twitter, I’m still @joyoffeminism

And I am truly looking forward to the positive energy of 2013!

Many blessings! I’m feeling good about my blog. 🙂