I’m not asking whether you’d like to get married. I’m asking what about a wedding appeals to you, and is most important to you. Answer anonymously if you’d like. Shows such as ‘My Fair Wedding with David Tutera,’ exhibit the mindset that a wedding is necessary to marriage. Not only a wedding, but an extravagant wedding! Please answer the poll and read on.
Why do we have weddings? It’s a social gathering, and a rite of passage for people who decide to marry. And yet, there is a specific format, sometimes specific to a family’s particular tradition or religion. Why are weddings so standardized?
Lately I’ve seen some examples on blogs and on etsy, showing photos of non-traditional weddings held in backyards with retro or halloween themes. But they tend to be the exception, not the expectation.
Think about it, though. There’s an unstated assumption that there will be (expensive)
- Dress, Tuxedo, and other Formal Wear
- Church or other religious building (often, not always)
- Place settings, decorations, other food
- Optional wedding planner
And all of this costliness tends to limit the number of guests who are invited. Having not ever had a wedding myself, I don’t know what I would do. But I imagine a personalized wedding, something where people might say ‘Everything was so Them.” Not ‘everything was so expensive’ or ‘everything was so beautiful’. I’d want my family and friends to know we care about them, and that we’re true to ourselves, and wise about money.
So what about you?